Scottish Games update: the drama continues

[cormac]

I talked to Holly, my ex-girlfriend and the daughter of Herald (see
previous post). She's also a member of the Games committee, and was
part of the decision-making process that ended in my removal.

scottishdm (6:58:40 PM): hi Holly
freak_unleashed78 (6:58:49 PM): hi
scottishdm (6:59:02 PM): can I ask you a question?
scottishdm (6:59:08 PM): (other than this one, of course)
freak_unleashed78 (6:59:25 PM): yeah i guess
scottishdm (6:59:45 PM): in your opinion, has your dad changed since
the operation?
freak_unleashed78 (7:00:37 PM): i was there when you called, my dad has
nothing to do with linda or gregs decision---there is something going
on with linda greg and mike---mike being the asshole
scottishdm (7:00:51 PM): *sigh*
scottishdm (7:01:39 PM): thanks, Holly
scottishdm (7:02:17 PM): I just want to know why I was replaced, and
who made the call
scottishdm (7:02:45 PM): but it's become such a chore, because no one
will admit to anything
freak_unleashed78 (7:02:46 PM): its just time for change
scottishdm (7:03:11 PM): you supported the change?
freak_unleashed78 (7:03:32 PM): in all honesty, yes
scottishdm (7:03:39 PM): thank you. an honest answer
scottishdm (7:03:44 PM): and a reason behind it
scottishdm (7:03:47 PM): I appreciate that
scottishdm (7:04:27 PM): did it have anything to do with me, or was it
just a "new blood" thing?
freak_unleashed78 (7:06:42 PM): for one thing, in my opionion, and a
couple of others--since you have been doing this your ego has inflated
to the size of a macy's thnaksgiving day parade balloon plus,--have you
looked in the mirror lately? someone honestly asked me if you were
homeless. scottishdm (7:07:20 PM): I've shaved since then, and I'm
going to the gym. As for my ego...come again?
scottishdm (7:07:34 PM): I'm nothing as far as the Games is concerned
scottishdm (7:07:41 PM): just a schmuck with a stick
freak_unleashed78 (7:07:59 PM): you come off to other people as "my
shit don't stink"
scottishdm (7:08:09 PM): well, yes, but I've always come across that
way
freak_unleashed78 (7:08:17 PM): this is all from when you came by on
xmas eve
scottishdm (7:08:27 PM): *blink*
freak_unleashed78 (7:08:29 PM): from people you do not know
scottishdm (7:08:52 PM): the christmas party?
freak_unleashed78 (7:08:59 PM): at my dad's
scottishdm (7:09:19 PM): yes, I know what party you're talking about,
but what did I say and do to piss people off?
scottishdm (7:09:36 PM): I just came by to say hi and wish your dad a
happy birthday
freak_unleashed78 (7:09:47 PM): its just the way you come off
scottishdm (7:09:54 PM): *sigh*
scottishdm (7:10:33 PM): it's never what I do, it's always how I'm
perceived.
freak_unleashed78 (7:11:20 PM): don't know what to tell you
scottishdm (7:11:34 PM): well, you told me the truth, which is more
than anyone else has told me
scottishdm (7:12:36 PM): later
While I may have looked rather scraggly, all they needed to do was
approach me and ask me to trim up. Not that difficult, as I had planned
to do that anyway. I have a sneaking suspicion that she's doing this to
get back at me for how I broke up with her over three years ago.
I'm not sure if it was out of boredom or spite, or both, but I shaved
my beard last night.

Comments

[selenesue.livejournal.com]

Well, better Baby Face than Homeless Guy I suppose. But you clean up good.

I have to wonder if the fact that your EX gf and her family members were part of the decision-making process had some bearing on the matter? They might read "attitude" that YOU are not actually projecting.

What I'm saying is, it may not be anything YOU are doing at all.

[cormac.livejournal.com]

I guess technically she's my ex-fiancee...and aye, I'm quite aware that it's nothing I'm doing. Like I said in the conversation, it's not anything I've done, but all in how I'm perceived.
Of course, the whole lot of 'em are slack-jawed Bakersfieldian yokels who only listen to Rush Limbaugh and sit around reading Ayn Rand, and consider themselves intellectuals because of it. I'm sorry, but anyone who buys into Mz. Rand's claim that there is no altruism and that all charity is inherently selfish needs to be drop-kicked back to the deep South.

[matrygg.livejournal.com]

Randian Objectivism blows...

Perception seems to be the hardest cross to bear, especially when you aren't interacting with them enough (or haven't ever) to really make them see who you are beyond the first impression. I know I tend to get perceived differently than I really am, as well.

That sucks

[mozartzbitch.livejournal.com]

That's the type of thing I would do to someone who broke up with me, but I'm still sorry to hear that man.

Re: That sucks

[cormac.livejournal.com]

You'd sit on your resentment for 3 years, letting it fester before initiating your coup de grace?

Re: That sucks

[mozartzbitch.livejournal.com]

Revenge is sweet. Especially the revenge that is much anticipated.

Re: That sucks

[cormac.livejournal.com]

Revenge is petty, especially the revenge that's ill-timed and unrelated to the matter at hand.
I mean, if your revenge is moving on with your life and finding love long before the person who wronged you, that's one thing. (She did, by the way. She's been with her new boyfriend Lief for 2 1/2 years now, and they're talking marriage. I've not had a successful relationship since we broke up...so...never, actually.) That's a healthy way to say "HA!"
But if revenge is revoking an opportunity completely removed from the wrong done three years ago, it's no longer revenge, but cold-hearted malice. I don't think she's been planning to do this for the past three years, as you seem to think with the "much anticipated" comment. Rather, her unfocused hatred of me that had been building and eating at her since we broke up finally found a conduit.

[magenta513.livejournal.com]

The icon says it all.

[(Anonymous)]

Dad always said, "the best revenge is living well." I don't know if shorn qualifies as living well, but the fact that Holly needs revenge shows that she's not 'over it.' I can't imagine that such harboured resentment makes her current relationship very functional.

-Daniel

Addendum

[(Anonymous)]

And if this whole drama becomes the spark for positive growth in yourself, all the better for you!

Daniel

Crud

[liamfellowman.livejournal.com]

"Freak" needs to get a life. You are the way you are man and if she can't deal that's her problem. I mean, you had good intentions and then she wants to brow beat you about your attitude at a time long past, and she's not even with you to boot? Dat make no sense, your point be right on man (Bob Marley accent here). Anyways, I'm sorry to hear about the beard. It looked good on you.